Inner Voices

My beautiful friends. Grab a box of tissues because this video ….  Oh. My. Word.  Amen and Hallelujah.

Our inner voices can be so loud and so discouraging.

 “You’re too fat.”  

“You’re a horrible mother/father/daughter/person.”  

“You aren’t enough.”

“You are a disappointment to him/her/your kids/God/yourself.”

We need to change our inner voices. We need to tell our negative Nancy inner voice to “shut it”.  Because you matter.  You are enough.  And you are loved by God.

If we could only see and believe the way that God sees us.

God says, “You are My Beloved.”  Let’s write THAT on our mirrors.


One of the things I worked on this past week during my Introvert Intermission was a personal mission statement. Sounds like fun, right? Doesn’t everyone spend their vacation working on personal mission statements? It was like taking an adventurous hike through the wilderness … of my mind. I got lost. A lot. Wide open spaces and no sign of life for miles…. You get the picture.


Throughout September, our youth ministry taught on Legacy. It is hard for a 16-year-old to think about legacy. How do you think about legacy when you don’t have a ‘one-of-a-kind’ dress for homecoming and no hottie date to take you either. Your life is basically over. Screw legacy.

But  a 41-year-old is definitely thinking about legacy as she I realize how fast time goes.


Tuesday was the one year anniversary of the eternal homecoming of an awesome guy, Chad Rogers.  Chad was a friend of mine, a friend of thousands, a beloved son, dad, husband, brother, nephew . . . .  I always knew Chad was well-loved and the outpouring of postings on the anniversary of his death was just another reminder of Chad’s beautiful legacy.  Like me, the guy wasn’t perfect and Chad was the first to own this – which is probably one of the big reasons so many of us loved him.  He was real.

Thank You Note

One of the things I love about social media is the on-going tributes that are shared when someone loved dies.  It is a virtual support group.  I thought about how important is was for folks to post expressions of love, funny stories, and  lasting lessons about Chad.  I rejoiced at what comfort it must be to Chad’s dear family to know that Chad continues to live in so many people and that they are not alone in their grief and their memories. I hope Chad’s Facebook profile is around for a long time so that his young son can one day read it and find comfort in how loved his dad was and how many of Chad’s pictures and status updates were about his son, Matthew Job. 

“He asks if we’ll give up that thing we’re so proud of, that thing we believe causes us to matter in the eyes of the world, and give it up to follow Him. He’s asking us ‘Will you take what you think defines you, leave it behind, and let Me define who you are instead?’

Bob Goff

Love Does (Thomas Nelson, 2012)